Tuesday, August 6, 2013

Just Say Yes!

I grew up in the 70's and 80's.  I remember when Nike came out with the "Just say no" slogan.  I took it to heart.  I said no to the drugs and the drinking and all the bad things.  And I continue to practice that idea now in my parenting, but "Just say no" isn't a great parenting slogan to live by!

As a mother of 9, I find that I say "no".  A lot.  All the time.  Then I saw this quote posted on Facebook by a friend, and I started thinking about it.  Quite a bit.  

Why, exactly, do I say no so often? 

I have discovered that I often say no because I am being selfish. 

I don't want to deal with the mess.  
I don't want to be embarrassed.  
I don't want to be inconvenienced.  
I want my life to be stress- and hassle-free.  

Well, as much as that's possible with 9 children, a dog, 6 snakes, a lizard, 7 hamsters, a turtle, several frogs....You get the idea!

Of course, there are things that we have to say no to sometimes.  For their well-being, for their safety, because they're wrong, etc.

But I want to say YES!

Yes to...

Mommy, can I wear my church shoes in the house?
Can you play a game with me?
Can I paint?
Can we go for a walk?
Can I help you make dinner?
Do you want to sit on the swing?
Can I wear my rain boots {on a 90 degree day to the store with shorts.  oh, and they have paint splattered on them}
Can I go out to eat with my friends?
Can I water your flowers?
Can I go to the store with you?


I want them to grow up feeling loved, don't I?  

Just say YES!